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'My Ex Took All of Our Mutual Friends!'

If you never tell anyone how you feel, no one will respect your feelings.

Heather Havrilesky
Feb 16, 2026
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Jacqueline with Flowers (1954), Pablo Picasso

Dear Polly,

The social fallout from my recent breakup feels crushing, and I don’t know what to do about it.

About three months ago, I ended a three-year relationship. Both of us saw marriage and a family as the next step. We had been living together for a year, and I felt sick with ambivalence. I tried to expre…

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