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'My Husband Cheated and Lied. Now What?'

Can he tolerate living in reality? Can you?

Heather Havrilesky
May 18, 2023
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Seen From a Height (1988) by Helen Lundeberg

Dear Polly,

I’m writing to you because I feel paralyzed. I don’t know if I should leave my husband of six years, together for 13, with two little girls who desperately need us to stay a family. Or do they? Last January I found out that he had a two-year affair with a colleague who is 12 years younger than me. I…

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