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'My Wife Loves Shitty Romantasy Books But She Doesn't Love Me!'

You don't have to share the same passions. You just have to respect and honor the truth.

Heather Havrilesky
May 12, 2026
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Lovers (1923), Pablo Picasso

Dear Polly,

My wife and I are in a downward spiral lately and I’m finding it hard to pull out of it. When I try to connect or relate, it goes sideways and I’m surprised or frustrated or indignant. Even though it seems ridiculous, where I notice this the most lately is when we talk about books. We both enjoy listening to audiob…

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