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'People Don't Like Something About Me!'

You don't have to change who you are, but you *should* change the defensive, anxious stories you're telling yourself.

Heather Havrilesky
Sep 22, 2025
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The Drop of Water (1964), Jane Graverol

Hi Polly,

In the last few months, I've realized something. Everyone is a Venn diagram. Everyone is a combination of millions of factors and various things that make them unique. Each of these things is a circle that makes up this Venn diagram, and where all of those circles meet, there's a person, unique in their ow…

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