‘Save Me From the Black Hole of Validation!’

Sometimes asking for reassurance is just another way of disrespecting yourself.

The Mirror (1950) by Dorothea Tanning

Dear Polly,

Thank you for writing such lovely, insightful letters Polly! They always make me feel better, more seen, and happier when I read them.

The issue I'm discussing here may be familiar to you: the persistent desire for validation, particularly from your friends. Polly, I am a seeker of affirmation from all aspe…