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'Should I Move Away From My Toxic Parents?'

You need emotional distance instead.

Heather Havrilesky
Aug 23, 2021
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New Mexican Landscape (1930) by Georgia O’Keeffe

Hi Polly.

I've been reading you a long time now, for at least six years, when I was 21. Now I am 27. My parents and I have always had a difficult relationship, mainly my mother and I, but as I have gotten older and gone to a lot of therapy (also six years & counting lol) I realize how culpable my father als…

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