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Should You Talk Less Shit?

Maybe not! But you should examine the shame that drives your shit talking.

Heather Havrilesky
Mar 24, 2022
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City Night (1926) by Georgia O’Keeffe

I used to have a lot of imagined enemies. When I was disappointed or angry or ashamed, it felt natural to look around for someone to blame. That’s what happens when you experience all ‘negative’ emotions as unwelcome, a sign of weakness. Your shame completes the pile-on, telling you that you should’ve learned to rise…

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