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If your mind tends to transform what you love into puzzles, problems, and pain, how do you stay invested in your (big, full, romantic) life?

Heather Havrilesky
Sep 26, 2025
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Prime Metaphor (1938), Jane Graverol

Are you a perfectionist, an overachiever, a sensitive overthinker, or someone who often bounces between doing too much and hiding from everything? If so, chances are that your mind has been trained, from an early age, to work like a tireless factory that changes impressions into stories, stories into problems, problem…

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