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'Stop Blaming Women For Being Single!'

Never have, never will!

Heather Havrilesky
Mar 02, 2026
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Woman with Chignon (1901), Pablo Picasso

Dear Polly,

I don’t typically write in to things like this but I’ve been following your column for ages and I wanted to say that there should be a different perspective on this one.

I’m a single mother by choice. I made that choice at 37 and had my baby 6 months ago at 38. Like the letter writer, I did everything p…

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