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Stop Calling Yourself a Narcissist!

Intense, sensitive, emotional people are often misunderstood. Try to tolerate misinterpretations, but resist the urge to misunderstand yourself.

Heather Havrilesky
Nov 16, 2023
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The Mirror (Enigma) (1934) by Helen Lundeberg

The omnipresent focus on narcissism is starting to bug me these days. Every week, I run into another article on fifteen more ways to identify a narcissist, and the list often includes items like “talks endlessly about their feelings,” “envious of others,” “fixated on romantic fantasies,” “believes they’re spe…

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