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Surrender to the Love Inside You

Seeking control can be a way of turning your back on your own magnificence.

Heather Havrilesky
Sep 28, 2023
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Soft Planet (1969) by Helen Lundeberg

So many of the letters I get are about control. Our society, leaders, teachers, parents, and friends often somewhat lazily convince us that we can fix any problem, that we SHOULD fix every problem all by ourselves, in order to make us independent and self-sufficient. So we apply the full force of our brains to the th…

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