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What Makes a Person Trustworthy?

Pretending that you have more emotional capacity than you actually have leads to resentment, conflict, and alienation. Embracing love without fear requires honesty about your limits.

Heather Havrilesky
Apr 14, 2025
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Nephaster cyaneus (Cloudstar)(1997), Dorothea Tanning

Many people are working far beyond their emotional capacity at all times. You might not realize it, but you’re taxing their systems just by being who you are. What’s worse, a lot of people promise way too much, both because they overestimate their own emotional capacity and because they’re trying to e…

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