You Are Already Whole

In order to stop erasing yourself for the sake of romantic love, you have to reject our culture's reigning ideas about what you need to 'fix' about yourself to become lovable.

Sep 08, 2022

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Skunk Cabbage (1922) by Georgia O’Keeffe

If you tend to abandon yourself / erase yourself / feel like nothing whenever you fall in love (as described in this week’s column), what can you do to change it? One reader reports that it’s not that easy:

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You Are Already Whole

In order to stop erasing yourself for the sake of romantic love, you have to reject our culture's reigning ideas about what you need to 'fix' about yourself to become lovable.

Skunk Cabbage (1922) by Georgia O’Keeffe

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