‘Am I a Snob Or Is He a Simpleton?’

Sometimes our subconscious mind demands a fantasy of perfection in order to ward off grief and despair.

The Butlers (1950) by Dorothea Tanning

Dear Polly,

I’ve been seeing someone for nearly a year, and most of that year I have been vacillating between: I really like and enjoy him. and He is a bumbling simpleton, what am I doing?

For context, I’m in my early 40s, with several varieties of short/long term relationships in my past. I live in a very small colle…