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noneofyourbusiness's avatar

The original response actually speaks to me hugely about how I was parented - by an enmeshed, boundaryless, and also highly traumatised mom, who just thought that access to (and control of) all my thoughts and feelings was the best way to keep me safe. I really appreciate how the earlier response brought up a lot of stuff that was just hanging out in my subconscious.

The follow-up gives me hope that I can reset my relationship with my mom - and by extension my relationship with myself, since she and I were effectively one self for the greater part of thirty years. (She is actually a wonderful person! She just needs to figure out where she stops and I begin.) I grew a little allergic to her for awhile, because I needed to carve out some space without her relentless presence in my head, but maybe it's time to go back to her with the confidence that I know how to stand my ground (and identify and isolate, with compassion, the things about her that trigger me).

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Minh's avatar

I love this letter so much-- so beautiful and imperfect, colorful just like how we are as humans!!

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