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‘I’m Broke and Mostly Friendless, and I’ve Wasted My Whole Life’

When you live inside your shame, everything you see is inadequate and embarrassing.

Heather Havrilesky
Jul 14, 2022
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Black Hills with Cedar (1941) Georgia O’Keeffe

This post originally appeared on The Cut in November of 2018, when I was right in the middle of an epic battle with shame. At the time, I felt pretty sure that battle would never end. I figured that all I could really do was notice it and treat like bad weather: inevitable but tolerable.

Four years later, I’…

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