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'I'm Tired of Hearing About His Feelings!'

Don't be a guilty villain who can't speak up. Intimacy depends on admitting what you want, even when it's illogical or embarrassing.

Heather Havrilesky
Mar 27, 2023
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Still Life with One Fruit (1975) by Helen Lundeberg

Dear Polly,

I've come to realize that I'm the embodiment of one of the villainous archetypes that you help your readers to either manage or escape from. Every LW lamenting that their partner doesn't listen to them properly or make enough room for them... That's me! My new partner opens his mouth and I sm…

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