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Chiara's avatar

I feel genuinely shaken by how unique this reframe is. The fact that the destroying of the relationship is exactly what needed to happen. Not fooling yourself into believing that success lies the way of being a Cool Chill Partner. No longer living inside a fantasy of an alluring, superior trickster. Insistence on needs as adaptive behaviour!!!!!!!!! Simply earth shaking. Thank you.

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Ariele Taylor's avatar

THIS! "I recognized that I wasn’t going to be happy if I stayed with someone who waved off my emotions as irrational". Thirty years ago I told my (future) husband this, and it has been the foundation of a happy marriage.

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