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Rejection Isn’t Personal

Even when it sounds very personal, try not to take it personally.

Heather Havrilesky
Oct 30, 2024
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Woman Fleeing Fear Itself (1980) by Dorothea Tanning

How other people feel about you often has nothing whatsoever to do with you. The vast majority of dismissive reactions you receive in the world are purely a manifestation of the culture’s current norms, most of them utterly arbitrary and formed in hopelessly restrictive, defensive, or hierarchical micr…

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