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'These Dating Apps Are Crushing Me!'

It's okay to feel like you're allergic to everything and everyone sometimes.

Heather Havrilesky
Jun 09, 2021
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Jack-in-the-Pulpit No. IV (1930) by Georgia O’Keeffe

Hi Polly,

This letter is written in a near-total state of despair, so I apologize ahead of time for all the drama. But here it is. I’m almost 30 years old, and I’ve been single for the past four years. Some of this time passed by choice. My last longterm boyfriend really fucked me up, but I did move on …

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