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'My Boyfriend Is So Chaotic!'
Stop taking a poll of what your friends think and trust your gut instead.
Nov 24
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'All I Want is Love and It's Making Me Crazy!'
Abandon your mind's reductive, narrow, repeating stories about love and live inside the ever-changing realm of your body instead.
Nov 17
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Heather Havrilesky
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Can You Stop?
If you can’t be interrupted, you’re missing out.
Nov 10
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Heather Havrilesky
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'My Friend Is an Asshole!'
Tolerating disrespect doesn't make you a better person.
Nov 3
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Heather Havrilesky
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‘Am I Too Romantic About True Love?’
Don't change your entire belief system just because you're afraid of seeming naïve.
Oct 30
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'How Can I Become a Writer?'
Make writing your top priority, but build a balanced, sustainable life around that dream.
Oct 27
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'I Have to Quit This Job Or I'll Lose My Mind!'
Life is too short to be miserable.
Oct 23
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Heather Havrilesky
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'Am I Doing Enough to Live My Values?'
Stating your principles every day - and tolerating the anxiety this incites in you - will help you to refine your path forward.
Oct 16
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