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A Chilling Cautionary Tale About Getting Involved With Attached People
When someone blames their current love for all of their problems, they're offering you a preview of your life with them.
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Heather Havrilesky
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Ambition vs. Ambivalence
How do you battle your anxiety and find your passion in the age of relentless self-promotion?
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Heather Havrilesky
9
'My Brother's Drinking Is Destroying All of Our Lives!'
Your family's avoidance keeps everyone sick.
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Heather Havrilesky
8
'I'm Trying So Hard But Everything's Still Going Wrong!'
Keep following your passion wherever it leads.
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Heather Havrilesky
61
Is Insecure Attachment Making You Unhappy and Stuck?
And if so, what can you do about it?
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I Feel So Afraid!'
Don't let insecure attachment block you from enjoying your beautiful, imperfect life.
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Heather Havrilesky
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August 2025

No, Self-Help Won't Make You a Jerk!
Never listen to anyone who thinks that self-improvement is inherently selfish. Cultivating firm boundaries and celebrating your desires will make you…
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Heather Havrilesky
22
'My Friends Give Me Too Much Advice!'
You took out the ball, you threw the ball, but you didn't want anyone to chase it.
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Heather Havrilesky
21
‘I Regret Everything!’
Get out of your head and into your life.
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Heather Havrilesky
16
How to Banish Your Shame
And let your romantic, exuberant self breathe free for a change.
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Heather Havrilesky
27
Shame Is The Enemy of Joy
Shame blocks your love, crushes your optimism, weighs down your spirit. How do you address it? How do you let it go?
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Heather Havrilesky
135
'Our Friend Never Stops Texting!'
Embrace the lost art of calmly addressing a problem without any harshness or drama.
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Heather Havrilesky
15
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