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'I Like Birbs!'
This parable has a moral.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'Should I Follow My Much-Older Boyfriend to a State Where I Don't Want to Live?'
Sometimes the age gap isn't all it's cracked up to be.
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Heather Havrilesky
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Embracing Totality
How to stop worrying and say yes to whatever comes next.
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Heather Havrilesky
29
'My Boyfriend Dumped Me After I Got Out of the Hospital with Long Covid!'
You don't need dismissive resolutions. You just need to open your heart wider and trust yourself more.
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Heather Havrilesky
23
'I'm Afraid to Write About Myself!'
Daring to tell your own story is a revolutionary act.
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Heather Havrilesky
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March 2024

'Was It Even Real?'
Making an expressive, sensitive man your best friend can be an exercise in disappointment.
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Heather Havrilesky
38
Love Doesn't Evaporate
Don't protect yourself from loss, pain, regret, and hope.
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Heather Havrilesky
19
Tolerating Unknowns Will Make You Stronger
Learning not to flail and fight and flee in the face of big questions opens your heart, mind, and body to a more deeply connected, satisfying existence.
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Heather Havrilesky
31
'Should I Leave My 12-Year-Old Daughter Behind to Pursue My Dreams?'
In a word? No.
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Heather Havrilesky
64
There's Joy in Noticing How Fucked Up You Are
It sounds so wrong but it's just so right!
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Heather Havrilesky
17
'My Best Friend Is Letting Me Down!'
Stand up for what you want but never stop making new friends.
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Heather Havrilesky
5
Close Friendships Are Hard!
Why does it feel so impossible just to ask for what you want?
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Heather Havrilesky
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