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How Do You Decide For Yourself?
When you're anxious, self-conscious, and afraid, how do you find your bearings and learn to trust yourself again?
21 hrs ago
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I'm Tired and Confused and Lonely!'
Quiet your punishing mind and let the fairy inside you explore and wander without fear.
Feb 2
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Heather Havrilesky
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January 2026
'I Cheated on My Fiancée Fifteen Years Ago. The Guilt Has Ruined My Life.'
A closer look at your emotional rebellion will uncover the honorable desire to be seen clearly and loved deeply at the core of your existence.
Jan 29
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Heather Havrilesky
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'My Open Marriage Is Killing Me!'
Two words: Get out.
Jan 28
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I Don't Know, Man.'
I can relate.
Jan 21
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Heather Havrilesky
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'Help! I Have No Friends At All!'
Making new friends is a slower process than many of us realize. Be patient, tolerate this trying moment, and keep putting yourself out there.
Jan 20
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I Can't Stop Comparing Myself to More Successful Writers!'
You need to stop seeing the world through the lens of your fears.
Jan 15
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I'm a Musician Who Can't Improvise!'
Your heart is seeking a revolution that's not logical, appropriate, or efficient.
Jan 12
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Heather Havrilesky
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'How Does It Heal?'
Teach your mind to stop parroting a rigid fable about how a woman should be.
Jan 5
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Heather Havrilesky
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Six Vibe Shifts For 2026!
This year, I'm determined to make some dramatic changes to how I live. What do you want to change?
Jan 2
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Heather Havrilesky
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December 2025
'How Can I Stop Being So Afraid of Changing My Life?'
Once you learn to live in the present you'll stop fearing the future so much.
Dec 29, 2025
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Heather Havrilesky
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'How Do You Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Body?'
Love your softest, most painful self every single day with reckless abandon.
Dec 19, 2025
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Heather Havrilesky
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