Archive - Ask Polly

'I Feel So Afraid!'

Don't let insecure attachment block you from enjoying your beautiful, imperfect life.

Sep 1 •

Heather Havrilesky

August 2025

No, Self-Help Won't Make You a Jerk!

Never listen to anyone who thinks that self-improvement is inherently selfish. Cultivating firm boundaries and celebrating your desires will make you…

Aug 25 •

Heather Havrilesky

'My Friends Give Me Too Much Advice!'

You took out the ball, you threw the ball, but you didn't want anyone to chase it.

Aug 25 •

Heather Havrilesky

‘I Regret Everything!’

Get out of your head and into your life.

Aug 22 •

Heather Havrilesky

How to Banish Your Shame

And let your romantic, exuberant self breathe free for a change.

Aug 18 •

Heather Havrilesky

Shame Is The Enemy of Joy

Shame blocks your love, crushes your optimism, weighs down your spirit. How do you address it? How do you let it go?

Aug 12 •

Heather Havrilesky

'Our Friend Never Stops Texting!'

Embrace the lost art of calmly addressing a problem without any harshness or drama.

Aug 6 •

Heather Havrilesky

‘I Get *So* Anxious Over How People React to Me!’

Make a solemn commitment to staying exactly this imperfect, forever and ever.

Aug 4 •

Heather Havrilesky

July 2025

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