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‘Am I Too Romantic About True Love?’
Don't change your entire belief system just because you're afraid of seeming naïve.
Oct 30
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Heather Havrilesky
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'How Can I Become a Writer?'
Make writing your top priority, but build a balanced, sustainable life around that dream.
Oct 27
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Heather Havrilesky
139
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'I Have to Quit This Job Or I'll Lose My Mind!'
Life is too short to be miserable.
Oct 23
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Heather Havrilesky
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'Am I Doing Enough to Live My Values?'
Stating your principles every day - and tolerating the anxiety this incites in you - will help you to refine your path forward.
Oct 16
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Heather Havrilesky
147
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Embrace the Thankless Hours
Joy and satisfaction come from showing up consistently and putting in hours of hard work in spite of your dread, anxiety, and gloomy outlook about the…
Oct 13
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Heather Havrilesky
63
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'I Feel Guilty for Wanting to Move Away From My Family!'
You can't honor and respect the people you love the most without honoring and respecting yourself first.
Oct 8
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Heather Havrilesky
63
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‘This Maladaptive Daydreamer Is Ready to Wake Up!’
Escapist fantasies hurt you by inadvertently perpetuating the myth that reality is darker and more terrifying than it actually is.
Oct 3
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Heather Havrilesky
69
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September 2025
'All I Want Is to Move Back to NYC!'
Good habits, firm boundaries, and a big heart will make you the strongest person in any room.
Sep 29
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Heather Havrilesky
139
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Stay In It!
If your mind tends to transform what you love into puzzles, problems, and pain, how do you stay invested in your (big, full, romantic) life?
Sep 26
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Heather Havrilesky
231
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'People Don't Like Something About Me!'
You don't have to change who you are, but you *should* change the defensive, anxious stories you're telling yourself.
Sep 22
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Heather Havrilesky
78
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A Chilling Cautionary Tale About Getting Involved With Attached People
When someone blames their current love for all of their problems, they're offering you a preview of your life with them.
Sep 17
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Heather Havrilesky
307
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Ambition vs. Ambivalence
How do you battle your anxiety and find your passion in the age of relentless self-promotion?
Sep 15
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Heather Havrilesky
55
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