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People Lash Out When They're Sad
Remind yourself to look for the cornered, fearful animal behind the angry words.
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Heather Havrilesky
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"Help, My Mother-In-Law Might Be Living Here Forever!"
If you want a happy marriage, every now and then you have to GRAB THE BROOM.
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Heather Havrilesky
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How Do You Want to Feel in 2025?
Sometimes feeling good requires clarifying your deepest principles and showing up for the people you love the most.
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Heather Havrilesky
13
'My Father Is Dying. Do I Have To Be There?'
This moment doesn't have a moral. Instead of making sweeping, rigid decisions about what to do next, let yourself be surprised by what's here.
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Heather Havrilesky
4

December 2024

Embrace Your Dreams in 2025
This is your year to make a commitment to what you love.
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Heather Havrilesky
11
Holiday Presence
How to feel good among chaotic, anxious parents, siblings, spouses, children, and friends.
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Heather Havrilesky
5
'I Published a Novel and No One Cares!'
Blaming yourself for not selling books is like blaming yourself for aging.
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Heather Havrilesky
108
Does The Past Make You Sad?
Life isn't an obstacle course of avoidable mistakes; it's much more nuanced and sublime than that. Do your stories do justice to how big your life is?
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Heather Havrilesky
8
'My Sister Lies, Steals, and Insults Me, But I Can't Let Her Go!'
When you protect someone from the truth, you delay their path to treatment.
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Heather Havrilesky
19
Feeling Strong Emotions?
Try doing nothing.
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Heather Havrilesky
7
'I'm Overcome By Grief and Rage, But I Need Love and Support!
Thriving means turning raw shame into pure audacity.
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Heather Havrilesky
39

November 2024

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