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Six Vibe Shifts For 2026!

This year, I'm determined to make some dramatic changes to how I live. What do you want to change?

Jan 2 • Heather Havrilesky

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December 2025

'How Can I Stop Being So Afraid of Changing My Life?'

Once you learn to live in the present you'll stop fearing the future so much.

Dec 29, 2025 • Heather Havrilesky

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'How Do You Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Body?'

Love your softest, most painful self every single day with reckless abandon.

Dec 19, 2025 • Heather Havrilesky

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‘I Just Need a Mother!’

Instead of feeling ashamed of your loneliness and longing, you need to learn to give yourself exactly what you need.

Dec 16, 2025 • Heather Havrilesky

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'My Hurt Feelings *Panic* Me!'

It's your punishing, neurotic thoughts, not your feelings, that send you into fight or flight mode. Daring to greet your feelings with enthusiasm will…

Dec 9, 2025 • Heather Havrilesky

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Does Everything Hurt Your Feelings?

Maybe it's finally time to embrace the source of your strength.

Dec 6, 2025 • Heather Havrilesky

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'I Made a Huge Mistake and Now He's Gone for Good!'

This humbling has so much to offer you.

Dec 1, 2025 • Heather Havrilesky

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November 2025

'My Boyfriend Is So Chaotic!'

Stop taking a poll of what your friends think and trust your gut instead.

Nov 24, 2025 • Heather Havrilesky

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'All I Want is Love and It's Making Me Crazy!'

Abandon your mind's reductive, narrow, repeating stories about love and live inside the ever-changing realm of your body instead.

Nov 17, 2025 • Heather Havrilesky

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Can You Stop?

If you can’t be interrupted, you’re missing out.

Nov 10, 2025 • Heather Havrilesky

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'My Friend Is an Asshole!'

Tolerating disrespect doesn't make you a better person.

Nov 3, 2025 • Heather Havrilesky

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October 2025

‘Am I Too Romantic About True Love?’

Don't change your entire belief system just because you're afraid of seeming naïve.

Oct 30, 2025 • Heather Havrilesky

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