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'I Killed All of My Dreams And I Have Nothing Left!'
Your dreams can't be murdered. You can pretend they don't exist, but they're still here, waiting for your sunshine, your water, your love.
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Heather Havrilesky
17
'I Destroyed My Poly Relationship and I Feel So Guilty About It!'
Stop trying to fix everything and feel the blunt impact of what you've endured.
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Heather Havrilesky
18
Build Your Dream to Last
A dream is not about becoming a new person. A dream is about relishing who you are right now, underneath all of the pain, noise, and circling thoughts.
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Heather Havrilesky
25
'I Just Graduated. What's the Point?'
You worked hard to get here. Now your work is to take your emotions, your ideals, and your questions very seriously and learn from them.
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Heather Havrilesky
7

May 2025

'Help, My Live-In Boyfriend Is Miserable and I'm Starting to Lose My Mind!'
You can't create your own adventure with a 150-pound man strapped onto your back.
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Heather Havrilesky
7
A Message For Recent Graduates: You're The Boss Now.
Don't blame yourself for not wanting the job. Nothing will serve you more in this life than learning to embrace and even celebrate uncertainty.
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Heather Havrilesky
15
‘I’m Married With Kids But I’m Obsessed With My Hot, Successful Ex!”
It’s natural to wonder about the paths you didn’t take.
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Heather Havrilesky
13
'I Don't Have the Confidence, Energy, or Bravery to Find Love!'
If you're so haunted by someone's anger that you're afraid of relationships, you should probably talk to someone about it.
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Heather Havrilesky
15
'Now That Hell Is Over, Can I Build a New Life?'
Shortcuts to the future rarely work. Slow down and reckon with who you are instead.
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Heather Havrilesky
4
'I Punish Myself For Everything!'
Learning to respect your needs and desires is much harder - and much more beneficial - than it sounds.
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Heather Havrilesky
3
'Will I Ever Get Over This Heartbreak?'
Is it true romance, insecure attachment, or depression?
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Heather Havrilesky
10
'My Life Is Ruined and Now I'm Trapped!'
Repeating the belief that you're stuck is a way of choosing a doomed fantasy over real life.
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Heather Havrilesky
16
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