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'No One Wants to Stay with Me Because I Have an Alcoholic Mom!'
You're trying hard to control reality. Surrender to reality instead.
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Heather Havrilesky
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May 2023
Closure Is Not Always Possible
When you love someone with everything you have, that feeling can remain alive inside you indefinitely. Instead of shutting it off, let it energize and…
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I'm Haunted by My Ex-Lover and Distant from My Husband!'
Ambivalence is a form of procrastination.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I Never Cheated But My Wife Doesn't Trust Me!'
As long as you play a placating role, you can't cultivate real intimacy and trust.
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Heather Havrilesky
18
'My Husband Cheated and Lied. Now What?'
Can he tolerate living in reality? Can you?
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Heather Havrilesky
23
'I'm So Tired of This Self-Pity!'
When you make enemies out of your own emotions, your shame and despair grow to an unmanageable size.
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Heather Havrilesky
11
'I'm Moving Away and It Scares Me to Death!'
Acknowledge the darkness but keep your eyes peeled for miracles.
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Heather Havrilesky
8
Who Do You Love?
On the importance of knowing who matters the most to you.
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Heather Havrilesky
7
Accepting Differences
Letting people be who they are is one of the biggest challenges of adulthood.
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Heather Havrilesky
9
'My Ex is So Loving to Her New Man. I Feel Duped!'
Your anxious overachiever’s fable about your inherent inadequacy has nothing to do with real life or real intimacy.
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Heather Havrilesky
13
April 2023
'I'm Allergic to My Husband's Friends, and Now They Want to Move to Our Neighborhood!'
It’s time to get more comfortable with disappointing other people.
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Heather Havrilesky
37
Mistakes Will Be Made
Today, tomorrow, and forever.
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Heather Havrilesky
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