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June 2025

Is Your Family Driving You Crazy?
Some advice for dealing with relatives on your summer vacation.
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Heather Havrilesky
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Stop Disrespecting Your Emotions!
When you denigrate, diminish, ignore, bury, or block your emotions, it makes every single challenge in your life more difficult.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'How Can I Love Myself Without Becoming a Selfish Person?'
Until you stop experiencing your own separate needs as immoral, you will encounter your own personhood, desire, passion, and wholeness as selfish.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I'm Haunted by My Successful Ex!'
It's normal to want more.
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Heather Havrilesky
6
Can You Forgive Yourself?
Even when you're doing your best, some days it's just a clown show.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I Killed All of My Dreams And I Have Nothing Left!'
Your dreams can't be murdered. You can pretend they don't exist, but they're still here, waiting for your sunshine, your water, your love.
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Heather Havrilesky
19
'I Destroyed My Poly Relationship and I Feel So Guilty About It!'
Stop trying to fix everything and feel the blunt impact of what you've endured.
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Heather Havrilesky
20
Build Your Dream to Last
A dream is not about becoming a new person. A dream is about relishing who you are right now, underneath all of the pain, noise, and circling thoughts.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I Just Graduated. What's the Point?'
You worked hard to get here. Now your work is to take your emotions, your ideals, and your questions very seriously and learn from them.
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Heather Havrilesky
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