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'How Can I Justify Working Part-Time to My Daughter?'
Nothing makes you a better feminist than showing her how to pursue joy.
6 hrs ago
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Heather Havrilesky
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The Value of Regret
When you dare to examine your past mistakes through a vulnerable lens, you clarify your priorities and attune yourself to your deeper values.
May 15
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Heather Havrilesky
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'My Wife Loves Shitty Romantasy Books But She Doesn't Love Me!'
You don't have to share the same passions. You just have to respect and honor the truth.
May 12
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Heather Havrilesky
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Do You Feel Ashamed of Your Bad Attitude?
What if you tried to enjoy it instead?
May 7
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Heather Havrilesky
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'Friendships Are a Minefield!'
Taking the risk of cultivating curiosity about other people's experiences widens every horizon.
May 4
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Heather Havrilesky
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April 2026
The Magic of Failing Miserably
Experimenting means treating your imagination to a strong dose of reality.
Apr 30
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I'm So Afraid of Being Seen!'
Are you a shy vampire or a swaggering zombie?
Apr 27
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I Failed Miserably and Now I'm So Ashamed I Can't See Straight!'
Guilt and shame and self-hatred might've helped motivate you before, but now what you need is radical self-love and self-acceptance.
Apr 20
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I'm Happily Married But I'm Still Hung Up On My Ex!'
If you want to learn more about how you feel, you have to chip apart your fantasies of yourself and others.
Apr 14
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Heather Havrilesky
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Enduring This Dark World
How do you survive in these bleak and chaotic times?
Apr 10
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Heather Havrilesky
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'Should I Move to Canada?'
Is this bold choice an escapist fantasy or a carefully considered plan?
Apr 6
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Heather Havrilesky
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IMPORTANT: Where to Find Ask Polly!
Go to askpolly.substack.com.
Apr 3
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Heather Havrilesky
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