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'I'm Not Attracted to My Husband Anymore!'
When you treat your feelings like a moral failure, eventually you feel nothing.
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Heather Havrilesky
5
September 2023
Surrender to the Love Inside You
Seeking control can be a way of turning your back on your own magnificence.
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Heather Havrilesky
29
'My Boyfriend Is Abandoning Our Plans and I'm So Sad and Angry!'
Your desire for control is blocking your view.
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Heather Havrilesky
7
‘How Do I Get Over Coming in Second Place?’
Rejection teaches you how to please yourself.
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Heather Havrilesky
29
Shame is a Side Effect of Desire
When everything feels embarrassing, sometimes it's just a sign that you're prioritizing joy, maybe for the first time ever.
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Heather Havrilesky
10
'He Told Me I Was Too Much!'
Never let a robot blame you for how numb he is.
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Heather Havrilesky
49
Be Good to Your Spark
When it comes to cultivating passion, only *you* can choose your best path forward.
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Heather Havrilesky
20
'How Do You Know When Your Art Is Good?'
You don't. Uncertainty is what keeps you moving, inventing, and feeling everything.
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Heather Havrilesky
12
Love Shouldn't Feel Bad
Forget the red flags and pay attention to how you feel.
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Heather Havrilesky
37
August 2023
'My Husband Doesn't Understand a Word I Say!'
Someone in this picture wants control and safety more than they want honest connection.
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Heather Havrilesky
54
'Can I Claw Back What I've Lost?'
Clawing is your super power.
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Heather Havrilesky
22
You Think You're Not That Ambitious. Are You Dead Wrong About That?
The surest sign that you’re incredibly ambitious is a complete and total lack of ambition on all fronts.
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Heather Havrilesky
17
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