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‘This Break-Up Left Me With So Many Regrets!’
Don’t hide from your own future inside someone else’s crisis.
Sep 9
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Heather Havrilesky
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“Should I Dump This Guy?”
You know exactly what you want right now, and it has nothing to do with who you’re dating.
Sep 3
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Heather Havrilesky
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August 2026
Ask Polly Book Club: “Banal Nightmare”
Halle Butler’s bizarre and hilarious novel offers insights into trauma, alienation, and the clumsy, flawed nature of human connection.
Aug 27
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Heather Havrilesky
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‘I’m Not Feeling Excited About The Rest of My Life!’
In order to reawaken your passionate, sensitive core self, you have to surrender to the friction, awkwardness, and vulnerability of navigating the real…
Aug 24
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I Moved West But Now I Feel Lost. Was It All A Mistake?'
Every mistake is an experiment, every experiment includes learning and discovering more about what you love.
Aug 17
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Heather Havrilesky
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‘Most of My Friendships Were Toxic, But Now I’m So Lonely!’
Until you learn to assert healthy boundaries, you'll struggle with all your relationships.
Aug 13
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Heather Havrilesky
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'My Dad Died and I Don't Know Why I'm Not More Devastated!'
Grief is a long, unpredictable road.
Aug 11
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I'm Failing at My Job and I Feel Powerless to Change It!'
Listen to what your body is trying to tell you.
Aug 5
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Heather Havrilesky
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July 2026
Put Your Phone Away.
Are you honoring your humanity?
Jul 29
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Heather Havrilesky
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'Why Am I Always the Girl Before the Girlfriend?'
Stop repeating this myth and show some respect for your brilliant, savage, ravenous spirit.
Jul 27
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Heather Havrilesky
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'My Boyfriend's Friend's Wife Is Angry That I Won't Babysit For Her!'
Oh my sweet Jesus.
Jul 20
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I Moved Back Home and Now I'm Single and Depressed!'
Sadness attunes you to your values and desires.
Jul 14
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Heather Havrilesky
192
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