What is Ask Polly?
I’m Heather Havrilesky and I’ve been writing the Ask Polly advice column for over a decade. I created Ask Polly for The Awl in 2012, and in 2014 it moved to New York magazine’s The Cut and became one of the site’s most popular features. My book How to Be a Person in the World, a collection of Ask Polly columns, was published by Doubleday in 2016.
In April of 2021, I moved Ask Polly to Substack where it publishes twice a week for subscribers only. Along with advice columns on subjects like how to embrace your secret creative dreams, how to become more flexible and open-hearted and how to navigate difficult friendships, I also write essays on subjects like intimacy, exuberance, obsession, regret, and navigating conflict instead of avoiding it.
I love writing this column!
I also publish a newsletter called Ask Molly (written by Polly’s evil twin) and I’m the author of four books, the latest of which, Foreverland: On The Divine Tedium of Marriage (Ecco, 2022) was named one of the Best Books of 2022 by the New Yorker and the Chicago Tribune. Foreverland has received many rave reviews and I narrate the audiobook myself. (You can buy it here.) My published work has appeared all over the place and includes humor (The New Yorker), essays (New York Times Magazine), and criticism (Bookforum). I started my career writing cartoons for the late, great early-web experiment Suck.com.
When you subscribe to Ask Polly, you get two new columns a week, you can comment on any column, and you can read everything in the archives. Thank you sincerely for your encouragement and support!
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