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Being Sensitive and Emotional Isn't Easy
Don't let it make you ashamed of who you are!
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Heather Havrilesky
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‘I'm Ready for Love But I Don't Know How to Start!’
Vulnerability requires surrender. Surrender takes practice. You start by savoring your conflicted, greedy soul.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I Love My Roommate's Cat But I Don't Know How to Love People!'
Learning to stand up for everything you love is a path toward accepting people for who they are.
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Heather Havrilesky
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Does Love Make You Anxious?
If intimacy and fear are woven together for you, understanding the weather patterns of your emotional ecosystem can help.
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Heather Havrilesky
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‘My Colleague is the Biggest Fucknut!’
Never waste your enormous power engaging with envious people. Compassion and respect for yourself and others will feed your energy instead of draining…
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Heather Havrilesky
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'Am I Making a Fool of Myself?'
Navigating your social life without understanding your values and principles is like floating in an inflatable raft on the high seas. Time to build…
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Heather Havrilesky
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Managing Your Expectations of Friends
If two friends aren't equally invested, does that mean the friendship should end?
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Heather Havrilesky
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Advice and wisdom from Heather Havrilesky, published since 2012 (formerly at The Awl and NY Magazine). Paid subscribers receive 1-2 weekly posts on how to navigate our broken world with compassion, realism, and an open heart.
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