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Process: What new story will mine joy from your imperfect life?
Crush your stories into pieces and build something new from them.
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Heather Havrilesky
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Workshop: What stories did you tell in order to survive?
Which old narratives still serve you, and which are holding you back?
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I'm Pretty Sure My Writing is Pure Trash!'
Learning to write means learning to love your garbage with all of your heart.
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Heather Havrilesky
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Speak Up.
Avoiding conflict at all costs is common today, and it's unhealthy.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I Like Birbs!'
This parable has a moral.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'Should I Follow My Much-Older Boyfriend to a State Where I Don't Want to Live?'
Sometimes the age gap isn't all it's cracked up to be.
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Heather Havrilesky
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Embracing Totality
How to stop worrying and say yes to whatever comes next.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'My Boyfriend Dumped Me After I Got Out of the Hospital with Long Covid!'
You don't need dismissive resolutions. You just need to open your heart wider and trust yourself more.
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Heather Havrilesky
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Advice and wisdom from Heather Havrilesky, published since 2012 (formerly at The Awl and NY Magazine). Paid subscribers receive twice weekly posts on how to navigate our broken world with compassion, realism, and an open heart.
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