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'I Have a Huge Crush and I Don't Know What to Do About It!'
Keep calm and don't leap yet!
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I Can't Decide What I Truly Want!'
It's obvious what you want, actually.
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Heather Havrilesky
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‘I’m Overthinking My Overthinking Again!’
Why not just stand up for your desires instead?
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I Have Absolutely No Idea What I Need to Be Happy!'
Learning to feel more is a lot like learning to swim.
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Heather Havrilesky
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Is Your Authentic Self a Pain in the Ass?
Some thoughts on big personalities, appropriateness, humility, and adjusting to conditions on the ground.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'My Former BFF Always Has a New Favorite Friend!'
Everyone invents their own ways of escaping intimacy.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'My Job Is Making Me Sick and Miserable!'
You are at the center of a dysfunctional ecosystem.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'My Parents Might Sell Their House to Fund My Sister's Doomed Business!'
You need to speak up before it's too late.
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Heather Havrilesky
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Advice and wisdom from Heather Havrilesky, published since 2012 (formerly at The Awl and NY Magazine). Paid subscribers receive 1-2 weekly posts on how to navigate our broken world with compassion, realism, and an open heart.
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