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‘I’m a Big Baby!’
You're not keeping your baby safe.
Jul 7
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Heather Havrilesky
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'My Teenage Son Is a Drunk!'
Babies do whatever it takes to get your attention.
Jul 2
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Heather Havrilesky
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June 2025
Is Your Family Driving You Crazy?
Some advice for dealing with relatives on your summer vacation.
Jun 30
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Heather Havrilesky
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Is Your Family Driving You Crazy?
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Stop Disrespecting Your Emotions!
When you denigrate, diminish, ignore, bury, or block your emotions, it makes every single challenge in your life more difficult.
Jun 27
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Heather Havrilesky
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'How Can I Love Myself Without Becoming a Selfish Person?'
Until you stop experiencing your own separate needs as immoral, you will encounter your own personhood, desire, passion, and wholeness as selfish.
Jun 25
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Heather Havrilesky
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'How Can I Love Myself Without Becoming a Selfish Person?'
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'I'm Haunted by My Successful Ex!'
It's normal to want more.
Jun 19
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Heather Havrilesky
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Can You Forgive Yourself?
Even when you're doing your best, some days it's just a clown show.
Jun 18
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I Killed All of My Dreams And I Have Nothing Left!'
Your dreams can't be murdered. You can pretend they don't exist, but they're still here, waiting for your sunshine, your water, your love.
Jun 13
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I Killed All of My Dreams And I Have Nothing Left!'
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'I Destroyed My Poly Relationship and I Feel So Guilty About It!'
Stop trying to fix everything and feel the blunt impact of what you've endured.
Jun 9
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I Destroyed My Poly Relationship and I Feel So Guilty About It!'
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Build Your Dream to Last
A dream is not about becoming a new person. A dream is about relishing who you are right now, underneath all of the pain, noise, and circling thoughts.
Jun 6
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I Just Graduated. What's the Point?'
You worked hard to get here. Now your work is to take your emotions, your ideals, and your questions very seriously and learn from them.
Jun 4
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I Just Graduated. What's the Point?'
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May 2025
'Help, My Live-In Boyfriend Is Miserable and I'm Starting to Lose My Mind!'
You can't create your own adventure with a 150-pound man strapped onto your back.
May 29
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Heather Havrilesky
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'Help, My Live-In Boyfriend Is Miserable and I'm Starting to Lose My Mind!'
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